I'm told it's national coming out day. So I have a story for you...actually I've written much of my story out already in a several blog entries, but I'm not talking about those now.
I told my Mother first, my Father second. There was a 2 year gap because I felt telling my Father was the hardest part. You see, my Dad grew up in the French Catholic school system, and I'm loathe to report I've never gotten the full story out of him, but... there were Fathers who were a little too hands on & my Dad had ... opinions about Gays and Child Molesters and how they were the same - or at least I thought he did, his opinion did eventually evolve.
When I told him several years back he accepted it, because I knew that he understood, despite my claims of being "Bisexual", he could see that I had lived my life as quality person who stood up for what was right, who tried to treat people right. Those are things I actually learned from him.
My partner knows (told her before we married), and a few friends.
If you haven't come out because you don't feel that you have a safe, supportive environment, then don't. Wait until you DO feel accepted. The only thing that changes when coming out are people's perception of you. You're still you. If they truly love you, they'll continue to do so.
So you may lose some friends, but you're likely to gain new ones. Go ahead and put some feelers out - you may yet find your tribe.
